Dating selfish men
A week or two later he started to act really cold, not texting or phoning me unless I did it first.
He would only see me once a week because he said he was busy (which he was).
Because they aren’t built for compromise, and solutions when the only thing they see when looking out into the world… Once a selfish person has seen all you have to offer, or the relationship is coming to a point where they need to start giving, they will call it quits because it no longer serves their interests alone.
When that happens, it’s time for them to leave and become someone else’s parasite.
That also means they contact you when they feel like it.What does he need to do to convince you that he’s not a good guy? You dated a man who, like many men (including good men), look for sex first and figure out the relationship stuff later.I’ve written volumes about this phenomenon and don’t think there’s much to add to that discussion.They want to do as little work as possible because if not, they are doing something selfless, which is not who they are.They don’t want to inconvenience themselves for someone else. If you tell your partner something makes you upset, he should make an effort to fix the problem so you won’t get hurt again.
Lisa and Barnaby can’t really go out of their way to help others. However, they may be extremely demanding of others and unforgiving when they feel let down by their friends and family, but the door doesn’t swing both ways.