Online dating tips for single moms keanu dating
When I got separated over a year ago, I thought I would never date again. That sounded about right — I needed time to decompress. We enjoy adult company, and sometimes that happens while talking to someone we are deeply attracted to over a glass of wine. It didn’t feel it was right for me and I wanted to meet someone organically while out on a run, at the grocery store, or while picking my kids up from school. And after talking with another single girlfriend who told me I needed to just do it, give it time, and realize I would talk to a lot of men and only connect with a few — I decided I’d think about it.I was so busy with my kids, thigh-deep into my career, and didn’t want to give up “me” time. Plus, I love getting dressed up, wearing heels, and talking to a man. The following night, when my kids told me I should go on (for old people) because I’d probably go out on more dates that way, I realized I should give it a try. Since then, I’ve learned a few things about what it’s like being a single mom who is meeting people online.The most important being: You have to know who you are, have self-confidence, and not let the pettiness of it get to you.Which I believe is true for all people who are putting themselves out there — but single moms are living a very different life than someone without kids, and dating takes a lot more out of us.Look for guys that don’t list their income because if they do, it’s sure to be false information or bragging, neither of which you want.Be cautious with the information you post to the dating website, as well as the information you give the guys you’re dating.
If you are interested in that, it can be deliciously fun. These are the men you will have the best conversations with (I have found) — the men who genuinely want to get to know you with no expectations. Not only that, when you do the asking, if they hesitate, move on. There is a lot of letting go and moving on happening in the online dating world.
Here are a few things to think about if you’re a single mom who’s about to start dating guys online. I’ve never met him, and I refuse to get attached or get my hopes up until there have been a few dates and we are on the same page.
For example, I have a date tonight and he might cancel. As a single mom, you might feel like your options are limited, but they really aren’t.
You don’t have time to mess around with lying about your age or posting an old picture.
If you’re serious about dating and finding the right guy to spend some time with, you want him to like you for you and not some false image of a distant you. Venture out of your comfort zone when looking at online profiles.
Even if you are very honest and write on your profile that you have kids (which is what I do), you will have men not even read your profile, match with you, and when you say something about your children, they will freeze. Men who aren’t comfortable if you have kids are extremely insecure, or think you are looking for a father for your children. If you aren’t into that, tell them you don’t play that way. They aren’t interested in seeing pictures of you behind cute filters and messaging about your day.